I don’t want any more failed relationships, these fears that get in my way.
I don’t want you for me, I want you with me. Love is not owning. It is the union of two people who are sometimes completely different but who accept themselves as they are .
Love is having your own life that you share with others.
I don’t want half love
Perfect love is not what I am looking for, I know it does not exist. But I want a love that sees me. The kind that would bring down my walls, that would ask me to share the parts of my soul that I hide from the rest of the world.
I will not find perfect love but can you offer me a love that will respect me? Who will accept that I cannot be a flawless woman? Can you be the one who will accept that I cannot always calm the heartbeats in my chest, my sensitivity, my darkness? Will you always be so proud to be by my side, even when I don’t show the best of myself?
When you walk into a room, I want others to notice that you notice me first. When you walk by my side, stop and kiss me on the neck, for no other reason than being happy by my side. When I dress in the morning, smile and appreciate that women are all as s exy in dressing as in undressing.
Love me, whole . For real, deeply and with sincerity. Not because of a need but because you freely chose it. I’m not here to chain you.
I don’t want irrational doubts
If you intend to love me, love me for real. I don’t just want words.
I want to feel, to feel in my guts that we are going to grow together, to evolve, to adapt. Feel every day that I have someone by my side who I can trust.
Can you walk in the same direction, with the same goals as me? Can you promise me that even when you are not there physically, you will still be by my side?
Because, you know, I’m not interested in dating someone emotionally immature. I don’t want to waste my efforts for someone who is going to turn his jacket over, cheat on me and pretend it’s not his fault because his ex or his parents or friends put him in this state.
I am not interested in a relationship with someone who has no idea what he expects from his life, his career, his future. What he expects from me, from us. I don’t want someone changing their mind on whether they want something serious or not. You want to be single or you want to be in a relationship, it’s not very complicated.
A real man knows what he wants and once he finds someone special, he commits to that person and his whole life. Is this your case?
I don’t want everything to revolve around you
Are you the type of man who, when he realizes that he has hurt, that he was hurtful, will not hesitate to apologize?
I don’t want someone who will beat around the bush, be unable to apologize or worse, try to lie to save face.
You know, a man who apologizes is proof of a man who loves his partner more than he loves his own ego.
Even better, I want someone who will make the effort to avoid messing up in the first place. I do not want someone who assumes that I will accept his “sorry”, “sorry”, “I will not do it again” without blinking. Basically, you shouldn’t even take the risk that I walk away.
If you’re only interested in yourself, it’s dead. A couple is two people. Your needs and my needs must be met, not just yours.
I don’t want an arrogant man who tries to cover up the fact that he lacks self-confidence. All this leads to narcissism and it sucks.
I don’t want an egocentric man who will put me last, who will play mind games and who would also like to be thankful to be with him.
I don’t want a jealous man or one who lacks self-confidence
A real man is not the jealous type. Jealousy is not proof of love, no matter what anyone says.
I need you to be sure of yourself and my love for you. A feeling of trust is what our relationship should reflect. I don’t want someone who will be suspicious or compare themselves to others. Worse, who will compare ME to other women. I’m looking for stability, and you, what are you looking for ?
Know that if you don’t feel safe with yourself, I know what will happen. You will bring that feeling of insecurity into the relationship too. I know it, I have already experienced it. Relationships full of unnecessary drama and conflict because the other is unable to trust me entirely. To trust Yourself, above all.
I don’t want a man who behaves like an idiot
Stupidity is not just a question of IQ, diplomas or general knowledge. So ok, we don’t have lessons at school on how to behave as a couple but still, there are limits. I don’t want a guy who plays idiots … or who really is.
If it’s to put me to shame at each family reunion because you’re still going to think about my mother’s age or weight, no thanks.
I don’t want a man who doesn’t keep his word
Do not promise me the whole Earth, do not tell me your most beautiful stories if it is just blah .
I don’t want you if you’re just talking, if it’s about making real efforts or investing in the relationship, you don’t move a finger. Being able to trust you is important to me.
I don’t want to be sucked into a one-way relationship, where I will be the one to do all the work…
What I want ? The assumed imperfection
I want you and your weaknesses. Don’t be ashamed of being tired, of not knowing how to wear everything. Be strong and fragile, imperfect and confident. I just want you balanced!
I have fought too many battles and I will never bow down again. I am no longer afraid to say “no” and I will no longer allow a man to define my personality.
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