Some people fall in love more easily than others. They connect relationships and they have the impression that each of their partners is the right one! Clearly, this is not the case. However, to tell the truth, when we are in a relationship, we really have the impression that this story is a fairy tale that will last until the end of our lives.
But, true love is unique. It is magical and indescribable. When you are truly in love it is as if you were living a romantic scene from a film with rose water. You feel butterflies in your belly, you have the feeling that your life has a trailer and that violins follow you everywhere. Their sweet melody punctuates your life.
And, whenever you are with your partner, you have the impression that he is able to see your soul. It is a very difficult feeling to describe. This true love is completely different from what you have known so far. It is only when you meet him that you realize that you are in love for the first time in your existence.
So how do you know if this story is really different from the others or if it is only your hormones that are playing tricks on you? After all, this is not the first time that you have felt that you have met the ideal man. It is not the first time that you think that your romantic relationship is perfect and indestructible!
The thing you need to know about true love is that you can’t force it: it will happen when it does. Whatever you do, you will not be able to precipitate its appearance in your life. So don’t worry about the number of times you’ve fallen in love with the wrong person. When you meet the good, you will realize that you would never have recognized him if you had not had amorous disappointments which will have given essential lessons.
What is great love?
Now that you’re in a new romantic relationship, you feel like you’ve found the right one. But, as it is not the first you that you feel this, you wonder if you are not mistaken, again. To help you understand if you found great love, this time, we have prepared a list of 20 telltale signs that will prove to you that this relationship is perfect for you.
1. You love yourself unconditionally.
If you are in a relationship where you and your partner make a list of everything you did for each other (“Here, the other day, I did the dishes for you” or “When you were sick, I took care of you ”), your couple does not live the great love. Because, if you were truly in love, you would give your time and your energy, without expecting anything in return.
Great love is to love unconditionally, for better or for worse, without expecting any favor in return. You take care of him when he’s sick, he takes care of your paperwork for taxes, and so on. You do everything to help and support the other person because you want to help him and not because you want him or her to be accountable to you.
2. Most of the time, your relationship is self-evident.
Contrary to what one can often hear, love and relationships are not complicated. It is only the excuse used by people who do not have the courage to end their couple when it is not working. Great love makes everything much simpler.
So, making compromises, sacrifices or understanding the needs and expectations of the other is not a winding path if you are truly in love. after all, you respect yourself and you have a lot in common. And even your differences are complementary. So why should your relationship be complicated?
3. Your goals are in sync.
Most relationships are failures because one partner thinks he or she can change the other to include them in their perfect outlook on life. Thus, we see, for example, couples who stay together for years because the spouse is convinced that she can push her man to marry him when he does not believe in the institution of marriage. So after lost years, they separate.
On the other hand, if your goals in life are on the same wavelength and complementary, you can be sure that you have found the right one. For example, if one of you is an excellent painter while the other likes to write, it is clear that your goals are going to be in synchronization. It is therefore important to talk about the future and to see, from the start of the relationship, whether the family, professional and personal goals are the same.
4. Your moral values are the same.
Even if, on the surface, you seem to be the perfect couple, you cannot live a happy romantic relationship in the long term if your moral values are not the same. How do you find common ground when you value honesty and respect when your partner considers that little lies are not dangerous?
These moral values can be completely insignificant like getting up early or going to bed late but they can also be important like working hard to succeed or taking short cuts to finish your projects. The important thing is that they are the same as those of your partner because when the difficult times arise, and trust us there will be, it is easier to stick together if you are on the same wave length.
5. He is your lover and your best friend.
Le grand amour is a complete package: you are lovers, best friends and teammates! You spend as much time kissing as you laugh. Besides, even your arguments are full of sarcasm but are devoid of mischief. When you are at the foot of the wall, he is always there to help you out of a difficult situation.
Together, you want to live new experiences, discover the world and travel. You have an all-around bond and no one can interfere with you because your emotional and psychological bond is indestructible.
6. You feel like you can conquer the world with him by your side.
When you are with the true love of your life, you feel an indestructible inner strength. As if you could face all the storms without any scratch. It gives you courage and daring. By its presence, it gives you the energy to stand up to anything and anyone.
With him, you know that you are never going to have to face the problems of life alone. He is always there to support you and help you when you need it. Besides, you don’t even have to ask him for help, he is able to see your distress and he immediately runs to your rescue!
7. You are both ready to compromise.
If your partner is not ready to accept your point of view and if he is able to leave at the slightest problem, you have not found great love. On the other hand, a couple who has no problem making compromises because each of the partners is as concerned about the happiness of the other as their own is a truly loving couple.
For example, if one of you likes to travel with great fanfare while the other prefers to travel in economy mode, you can make the compromise of saving money for transportation to allow you a luxury hotel. The goal is mutual happiness and not: Who had the last word?
8. You trust yourself.
Until you take the risk of entrusting something personal to someone, you cannot know if you can trust them. This is when the pot of roses is revealed: either you have made the best decision of your life or you have been duped!
Trust is the basis of all healthy romantic relationships. Without it, s ex, love or any other feeling has no value. So if you know you can put your life in the hands of this man, it means it’s the right one. Congratulations!
9. You are honest with each other.
Honesty and openness are key elements of a happy romantic relationship. Especially when it comes to faults or secrets. If you are lying about who you are, you choose to make the superficiality of your relationship a priority rather than your happiness.
But beware ! Honesty and cruelty are not the same thing. You can be frank without the need to hurt the other. You can criticize him without destroying his self-esteem. But, great love is being able to be who you are, sincerely!
10. You respect yourself.
Romantic relationships are formed through love but end because of a lack of respect. Couples who have been together for years have understood this. For example, when you argue, you remain courteous because despite your differences you value yourself a lot. You trust the other person’s opinion and take it seriously.
When you are with friends, you always talk to each other in the best possible way, even if your partner is not there to hear your compliments. You do not criticize the political or social opinions of the other but you seek to understand why this or that subject gives rise to a fiery passion in your partner.
11. With him you can be yourself.
You do not feel the need to hide! You are not afraid to share your most embarrassing moments with him or to divulge your most shameful secrets to him. Do you like to eat at 2 am, so what? That makes him laugh … He doesn’t judge you and accepts you as you are.
He is fully aware of the baggage he brings into your relationship and its imperfections. He too has a bizarre and / or wacky side. So it lets you be who you are. It all comes down to the love, confidence and the feeling of comfort that you feel in your romantic relationship.
12. Your communication method is working perfectly.
Even people who find it very difficult to express themselves or to talk about their feelings manage to get the message they want to their partner if they are in love. After all, communication can either break or strengthen a couple! So it is important to have the same mode of communication, even if it is not perfect.
Humor and sarcasm are essential elements of this communication. Together, you must be able to talk about everything, laugh at everything and, above all, never be hurt by your partner’s jokes.
13. When you speak, he really pays attention to what you say.
When you are in love, you want to know everything about your darling: his favorite color, his childhood memories, his regrets, his passions etc … So, if your man asks you a lot of questions about you and if he remembers what that you told him, then it’s great love.
When you speak, he really listens because he seeks to know you by heart and because he knows that all the information you give him will be useful to him later. With him, no subject is taboo and all your conversations are interesting and exciting.
14. He never belittles you.
Narcissistic, in sight! A man who needs to put you down to feel better, especially in public, is really toxic to you. With great love, you can be sure that you always have someone who will reach out to you when you fall. He will never demean or humiliate you.
He will not criticize all your mistakes and, above all, he will not try to give you a bad image with his / your friends or your respective families. Quite the contrary … He will do everything to encourage you and give you useful advice in order to avoid such or such error in the future.
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